Spontaneity, Loneliness, and New Friendships

There was something wonderful about it being spontaneous. It was just another Saturday night, and none of us had planned anything out. I figured the odds were pretty good I’d just go home and read a book or watch a movie by myself. Normally, that kind of night would seem pretty relaxing to me, but at this point in my life, being alone was pretty difficult.

It seemed like it had been a while since the last time I’d had a good Saturday night. But doesn’t it seem like the best nights are the ones we don’t even plan out? I made new friends and spent time with old ones.

We went out for snacks and ice cream. We came back and all watched a movie together. That one was an emotional rollercoaster. We watched another movie – something a little bit lighter. We joked around and talked and had a good time.

That night wasn’t anything particularly eventful. It wasn’t one where I did anything crazy, and it wasn’t even a huge turning point for me, emotionally speaking. I was still having a rough time, and I still couldn’t totally handle being alone. But it was a start. That night helped me realize that there would always be people in my life who cared about me, and that it was possible to have a good Saturday night, even in the midst of some hard times.

You know, not every moment is going to be perfect. Sometimes there will be bad days, bad weeks, or even bad months. But the important thing to remember is that it’s all going to be okay.

Moments like that night – when I was able to enjoy myself for a few hours and make some new friends – were the reason I got past the bad times. Because even in the midst of darkness, it really is possible to find some light, and I just think that’s beautiful.

We should look out for the people around us. The reason I experienced that night and several more like it is that a friend was looking out for me. I had someone checking up on me and making sure I was okay – making sure that I had people to hang out with and talk to.

So yes, that was a difficult time for me, but at least I had friends. At least I had people there during some of the really hard nights. And later on, I was even able to return the favor and be there for some of my friends as well. That’s kind of how life works. We all have our ups and downs. That’s why it’s so important to be there for other people. Sometimes we don’t even realize how much they truly need it. And sometimes we don’t realize how much of a difference we’ve really made in someone else’s life.

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