I’m a really busy person, and so are all my friends. That’s what happens when you’re in college, I guess. Or maybe this is just the way life is in general. I couldn’t say for sure.
But anyway, I’ve realized that in all this busyness, sometimes I go days or even weeks without seeing some of my favorite people. We have really different schedules from each other, and it’s hard to match them up. Whether we try to just be spontaneous about it or to plan it out days in advance, one of us ends up being busy or something else comes up.
And honestly it can get really lonely sometimes to go that long without seeing some people – especially whenever I’m having a bad day. I don’t want to be that person that only talks to my friends on the bad days, even if I really need someone to talk to or even just to be with.
See, that’s the thing. I’m not really that needy of a person most of the time. I just need to be in the presence of my friends every so often. I see my absolute closest friends pretty regularly, which is great. But I know I have more than like three friends that I care about.
My suggestion for fixing how little I see people? five-minute hangouts. In between classes, we could meet up at some sort of halfway point, quickly rant about our days, tell each other any exciting news we might have, and give each other a hug. Honestly, sometimes we could skip al the talking and just meet up to hug. I would be okay with that.
Recently, I’ve been able to hang out with one of my friends a lot more often. Granted, these hangouts are very casual and pretty much always happen while I’m at work. This means we can’t spend the entire time talking. But he’s there chilling while I work, and every so often I’ll pause what I’m doing to talk for a little bit.
In the past, we’ve only hung out like once a month, or maybe even less than that. These hangouts normally involved some planning ahead. We would set the date ahead of time and go somewhere – usually out for dinner or to get ice cream. Now, he just chills with me at work, and we spend time together at least once a week most of the time.
I like this so much better, honestly. I’d rather have someone around more frequently in a more casual way than to only see that person once every blue moon. And I love that this is one of those friendships where I can just call and he’ll come over (as long as he answers the phone).
Honestly, shouldn’t that be how friendships are? We should be able to call each other up, even if we just need a minute to talk or hug or whatever. We should be able to be completely honest with each other when we need to talk. We should see each other as often as possible right now while it’s still an option. (That’s for all my college friends out there.)
I’m about to graduate, and pretty soon there won’t be anymore spontaneous hangouts in the middle of the day. Pretty soon it won’t even be an option to bump into people on campus. My life will change socially in general, and I’m probably not taking enough advantage of the opportunities I have right now.
Okay, let’s be honest. I’m actually way too busy for a lot of the stuff I used to be able to do. I only have a couple hours off during the day, and I usually use those for napping or eating.
That’s why I think it would be so great if we could go back to a more laidback mindset when it comes to hanging out. I don’t need some extravagant outing. I just want to spend some time with my friends. It’s fine if we just study next to each other or we hang out at each other’s houses or something like that.
It doesn’t have to be a big deal. If nothing else, we can always have a five-minute hangout.